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  History of Wedding Ring

  by wannahelp in

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  hmm,.

  while searching the internet today i found this websit.

  <a> http://www.prime.org/chalfant/rings.html.

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  thinkers wife

  Good luck on the GB Wanna! You aren't the first that has tried that! I am sure they will thank you very nicely and then put you on their special, Do Not Call list!
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  Want to help my JW friend

  by wannahelp in

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  i'm new here, and i want to make it clear upfront that i am not, nor have i ever been a jw.

  in fact, until recently i didn't know much about jw's.

  but i do have a question that i hope both jw's and ex-jw's will try and answer for me... about 10 months ago, i hired a 20 year old to work for me.. i hired him because he seemed very loyal, ethical, sincere, hardworking and honest.

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  Wanna Help,
  Gosh, I sure would hate to be in your spot. Although, I must say it is very interesting to read how a person on the outside looking in views it. You seem to have an excellent grip on the JW mindset.
  I also understand your dilemma. I feel that way about the friends and family I left behind!! And believe me, I am not sure how to handle it either.
  But this is serious, because your friend is dating. I believe from what you have described he is beginning to see the "trap" he is in. As a person who was married to a fellow JW for almost seventeen years, it is imperative, IMO, that he figures out what he really wants before he makes that kind of comittment. My ex was abusive, despite the rules in the organization. And we were seriously mismatched. Are you aware that JW's are forbidden from intimacy before marriage? And I mean any intimacy with the exception of a little light kissing and holding hands? I am very aware that sex within a marriage isn't everything. But it is a definite part of marital happiness. And if your friend is willing to take on on the responsibilities that LDH mentioned, then he should also be entitled to have a healthy sexual life. Will he? I seriously doubt it. It sounds like both families are already starting the trend and putting pressure on him.
  I feel all the above posts are excellent in their advice. And as was mentioned by some, it sounds as if you have a good grip on how to make your friend think. Don't give up on him. I would hate to see him in a mis-matched perhaps loveless marriage, for the sake of remaining in the organization!!
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  DECEPTIVE JW ELDERS - CASE#4b

  by Amazing in

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  deceptive jw elders case#4b .

  but jesus called them to him, and said, you know that the princes of the gentiles exercise dominion over them, and they that are great exercise authority upon them.

  my son-in-law said that the young jw man arrived and stayed a while, started to watch the movie, but then left.

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  thinkers wife

  Been there done that too. After my ex left me, rumors of course were rampant. With almost no exceptions the rumors could be traced back to the elders, their wives, or their children.
  One of the reasons why I am where I am now. BTW, the rumors followed me to my next congregation for at least another year. And on top of that, that was 1998-99 by then, some of the grist for their mill was things all the way back to 1994. Go figure. Guess they don't have a life and need the excitement.
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  Just don't care?

  by rollercoaster in

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  when you are coming out of the organization do you ever get to a point where you don't want to discuss religion, and you don't want to think about death and the bible?

  i think i'm just riding along right now.

  i'm taking it a day at a time, and seem to be very outspoken to my family.

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  Excellent post Waiting. The similiarities are amazing. Everyone has to go through the process. And everyone's progress and way of handling it is different.
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  Things I found when my mom died...very interesting

  by PurpleV in

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  thanks to all for replying to my first newbie post.. i am here because scally asked me to repeat a post i made on tishie's board here, because you guys might be interested in talking about them.

  (i also think i will stay here, cause you guys sound cool.).

  my mom died in april, a lifelong jw.

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  Purple V,
  Thanks for the walk down memory lane. But it was this that got me

  Language (or Colored)___________________"

  
  Unbelievable!!
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  Coming Out Experiences

  by Preston in

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  hi, this is my first post so i would like to get some things off of my chest.

  i recently had to leave my congregation after five years after deciding to take a proactive stance regarding my beliefs and the fact that i found it necessary to come out to the congregation regarding my queerness (i usually try to stay away from labels like straight or bi since i think they are deceptive).

  i was very active in my congregation: i was a ministerial servant, i handled the accounts, and i performed a lot of other duties.

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  thinkers wife

  Welcome to the board Preston. I only "came out" of the org. too. But have much respect for somone who is true to their feelings!!
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  LOOKING FOR SOME ONE

  by ONE MIND in

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  i am from detroit and can any one help me find a young laby.

  her name is tony she work at the ritz carlton dearborn.

  i need to talk to here i am to a fread to and i know that.

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  thinkers wife

  Shame on you guys!! It is a good thing I had swallowed my sip of coffee before reading these replies. These types of comments should come with a warning label. "Be aware that drinking beverage of any kind while reading could cause liquids to come out of your nose!"
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  What is an apostate?

  by esther in

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  the meaning of 'apostasy' given in my dictionary is "abandonment of religious faith, vows, principles or party".

  i used to think that only cults considered leaving their religion to be apostasy, but according to my dictionary, as quoted above,everyone who changes their religion is technically an apostate.

  so were those of us who changed from other religions to become jws apostates then?

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  thinkers wife

  Esther,
  First of all welcome to the board. Hope to hear more from you!!
  My comment on your question is this.

  abandonment of religious faith, vows, principles or party".

  If this definition is true, then the WT has apostatsized against it's own teachings. Some of the changes in policy they have made over the years is an abandonment of religious faith, IMO.
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  What the hell am I going to do with these books?!?

  by TheApostleAK in

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  what am i going to do with all the books (for field service) that i still got??

  i got 5 "life" books, 3 nwt's, 5 "knowledge" books, 3 of every brochure, 10 "required" brochures, 2 "creator" books, 2 "family" books and a 12 inch pile of wt's and awakes?

  (i got another box of books to got thru in a minute) and i didn't even pay for them!.

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  thinkers wife

  Apostate,
  Did you get my email?
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  Just a female thing?

  by anglise in

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  since drifting from the org over the last year or so i have been slowly updating my clothes.

  i thought maybe it was just me who had been dressing like a middle aged matron since i was 23 but whilst talking to a young xsister recently i learnt that she too has thrown out most of the clothes she used to wear whilst a dub.. has anyone else found themselves doing this, and is it just a female thing?

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  thinkers wife

  Larc,
  Keep the grey you sound extremely handsome to me. Dont tell Zazzu I said that!!
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